As a mom to three and an organizer of a 1,300+ mom-member playgroup, I’ve learned to grow thick skin and have a strict “If the kids are alive at the end of the day” no-judgement policy.
Unfortunately, that’s not the case with a lot of mommas. Especially the ones that live behind screen names and avatars. Don’t get me wrong – I appreciate all of my readers, even the ones that make me second guess my parenting skills and style – I don’t know where I’d be without y’all! But, sometimes, it hurts. Criticism and negative feedback can be tough!
And, so it’s with a total understanding that I may get slammed that I share a secret with you:
I’m not a fan of breastfeeding.
Whah? Stop the presses. Mom Favorites hates breastfeeding? She’s a terrible mom. Someone call Child Services!
See?!? I got the hate mail out of the way for you. Ready to discuss this rationally?
Let me explain: With my first son, I had complications. A whole host of issues that didn’t get resolved until nearly six weeks after he was born. I had a lot of healing to do after birth, and my milk to never fully come in. Plus, I think most first-time moms go into a little bit of shock after baby is born. Regardless, nursing was never really established. I pumped like crazy his first few months of life, had to feed him with bottles, and I was miserable.
My second kid, despite my apprehensions, was easier. Nursing went smoothly, it was just such a time suck. Pun intended. Whenever the baby was cranky, everyone assumed he must be hungry, and was therefore always my issue. And, middle of the night feedings? Yup, all me too.
With the third, I had severe complications. After surgery, I was still nursing. Forget recovery sleep, baby had to be fed. And then once I was better, I was balancing three kids, a full time job, and trying to have a baby on the boob every three hours. Not to mention his milk allergy, which forced me to cut out dairy…
Is it worth it? I dunno. Depends on who you ask, I guess. Everyone advocates that “Breast is Best,” but at what cost? And why, exactly?
Will my baby have fewer allergies in life? What’s the difference if I nurse for three months or six? How much higher an IQ will he have? Would I have been smarter if my mom had breast fed me? Is it worth it to nurse if it prevents mom from bonding with baby?
If you ask me, it’s the OFFICIAL Great Debate of Parenting! Ok, there are a few others like: Can you be a good mom and a working mom? Should you be allowed a glass of wine when pregnant? Should you let your kids have a cell phone?
Yeah, parenting is tough. You have to make tough decisions. But, fortunately, there are good resources to help you make the decisions that are best for you. Check out Yahoo! Parenting for engaging content on these and more Great Debates. You’ll get BOTH sides of the story (which I appreciate), and some good references too.
Now, I gotta ask: What gets you? Do you have a Great Debate when it comes to parenting?
I was selected for this opportunity as a member of Clever Girls and the content and opinions expressed here are all my own.